*If you are experiencing domestic violence you can text “start” to 88788*
Rebekah Grace Rose Barsotti Born December 28, 1987 Missing July 20, 2021 Discovered May 17, 2022 Identified June 2, 2022 Rebekah had recently left an abusive marriage. Charges of Domestic Violence were filed against her estranged husband. Rebekah went missing the same day she met with her estranged husband's caregiver. Law Enforcement refused to consider the estranged husband as a suspect and informed the family "he is not a person of interest and never will be".
Our purpose is to bring awareness to Domestic Violence and Missing Persons and to be a voice for change in the handling of missing persons cases through education and legislation.
For more information visit Rebekah's Legacy
One of our goals in promoting Rebekah’s Legacy is to make resources available for education regarding Domestic Violence. The Power and Control Wheel also known as the Duluth Model, was developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth, MN
The wheel depicts the many tactics an abuser uses to keep their victims in a relationship and was obtained from National Domestic Violence Hotline
For a better understanding of the Power and Control wheel you can watch this short video.
Power & Control Methods
Makes me feel afraid or unsafe with actions, gestures, looks; Throws things; Breaks things; Damages my property; Abuses your pets; Displays weapons.
Using Emotional Abuse
Puts me down; Makes me feel bad about myself; Calls me names; Makes me think I am crazy, misinterpreting or over-reacting; Plays mind games; Humiliates me; Makes me feel guilty or ashamed.
Controls what I do, who I see, what I read, where I go and who I talk to; Limits my volunteer, religious or outside activities; Monitors my behavior and communication; Uses jealousy to justify actions.
Minimizing, Denying and Blaming
Makes light of the abuse; Doesn’t take my concerns seriously; Denies abuse ever happened; Shifts blame for the abuse to me by saying I caused it.
Makes me feel guilty about the children; Uses the children to relay messages; Uses visitation to harass me; Threatens to take the children away.
Treats me like a servant; Acts like the “head of the household”; Makes all the big decisions; Defines each person’s role in the relationship; Uses gender, race, class, etc. stereotypes against me.
Using Economic Abuse
Prevents me from getting or keeping a job; Makes me ask for money; Gives me an allowance; Takes my money; Refuses to let me know about or have access to shared income.
Using Coercion And Threats
Makes and/or carries out threats to hurt me; Threatens to commit suicide; Threatens to report/embarrass/out me to an agency or others; Threatens to leave me; Pressures me to commit illegal actions.
Unfortunately, without intervention, the abuser repeats this cycle over and over again.
* If you are experiencing domestic violence you can text “start” to 88788 *